Being a single mom for eight years has it rewards and challenges. I have two handsome boys, whom I love so very much. It is not always easy and I must admit I’m not always the nice mummy. What make a wonderful mother? Well for me a wonderful mother is someone who:
Love: this is the most important one of ALL, regardless of what my boys decide they want to be in life; I will always love and support them. I may not always agree, but LOVE is very powerful. WOW it funny my oldest some will be going off to college in 2 years.
Understanding: I try to be reasonable with my boys; I value their opinions and suggestions. Sometime their opinion and suggestion can be very unreasonable, but I listen I may not always agree. This approach help keep the dialogue between my boys and myself open. I always want my boys to know they can talk to me.
Compromise: I may not always agree with my boys’ choice of music, clothing, or hair style. But I learned that if I understand their music this will help me understand what influence this music may have on my boys whether it be good or bad thoughts. I like to dialogue with my boys about their chose of music and try to understand exactly what the artist is saying in his music. Clothing changes every other month, I look at this as if my son’s are trying to identify who they are. Maybe this is my boy’s way of discovering their personality. As a teenager I never had to endure what kids today have to endure.
Disciplinary: Okay this is the hardest one for me; as a parent I sometimes feel guilty when having to punish my kids. I was never the disciplinary one my ex was. I had to learn how to say no and MEAN IT, of course afterward I would go in my bedroom and cry, but I never allowed my boys to see me cry. I am very discipline, I guess because I was a military brat for years.
As a parent I am still learning every day, this is the rewarding part, well that’s all for now.
