Being a single mom for eight years has it rewards and challenges. I have two handsome boys, whom I love so very much. It is not always easy and I must admit I’m not always the nice mummy. What make a wonderful mother? Well for me a wonderful mother is someone who:
Love: this is the most important one of ALL, regardless of what my boys decide they want to be in life; I will always love and support them. I may not always agree, but LOVE is very powerful. WOW it funny my oldest some will be going off to college in 2 years.
Understanding: I try to be reasonable with my boys; I value their opinions and suggestions. Sometime their opinion and suggestion can be very unreasonable, but I listen I may not always agree. This approach help keep the dialogue between my boys and myself open. I always want my boys to know they can talk to me.
Compromise: I may not always agree with my boys’ choice of music, clothing, or hair style. But I learned that if I understand their music this will help me understand what influence this music may have on my boys whether it be good or bad thoughts. I like to dialogue with my boys about their chose of music and try to understand exactly what the artist is saying in his music. Clothing changes every other month, I look at this as if my son’s are trying to identify who they are. Maybe this is my boy’s way of discovering their personality. As a teenager I never had to endure what kids today have to endure.
Disciplinary: Okay this is the hardest one for me; as a parent I sometimes feel guilty when having to punish my kids. I was never the disciplinary one my ex was. I had to learn how to say no and MEAN IT, of course afterward I would go in my bedroom and cry, but I never allowed my boys to see me cry. I am very discipline, I guess because I was a military brat for years.
As a parent I am still learning every day, this is the rewarding part, well that’s all for now.
2 comments:
Very nice post, Linda. We can't always understand who our kids are identifying with, because we don't get the peer pressure feelings that they do at their age. It's great that you stay open to their needs. As far as discipline, do it with love, never out of anger. Remember that you are guiding their morality and values, and fit the punishment to the crime. Make a list so they know the punishments for doing certain things, and stick to it. The will respect you for it. Enjoy them!
Sue, thank you for your wonderful response. I will take your advice about the list; never try this before I am always open to some great parenting ideals’.
LS
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